A few years ago, my wife and I tried an experiment. We went to visit a sister church of the church I grew up in. On our first Sunday there, the pastor preached a sermon about their doors being open to everyone in the community. “Everyone is welcome,” he said. He went to extensive lengths to explain that no matter what your background or financial status, no matter where you lived or what “sin” you committed; whether you were a single mother, or had been incarcerated, or lived on the streets, you were welcome and belonged here. My wife and I sat listening carefully to that list, but (not to our surprise) heard no mention of the LGBT community among the people listed. I knew this pastor and his wife from the parent church we had all previously been a part of. So following the service, I decided to challenge him on it. I wrote him a letter, mentioning my background, my long involvement at our parent church, and my recent marriage to my wife. I asked him if he truly meant all were welcome, or if his statement meant everyone…except me. He didn’t remember me at first. But upon agreeing to meet us both for coffee to discuss the matter, he remembered both me and my family very well. Our mutual connection to a former church world and memories we both shared softened his heart toward us a bit, and the door seemed to open a little as we […]
Hey Friends, This last week I had the honor of speaking to a group of over 1,200 parents of LGBTQ kids online through a Facebook LIVE event. They were gracious enough to let me share the recording with you in hopes that it may help you along your own journey as well. If you are the parent of an LGBTQ child and are looking for support and community, please consider joining the Parents of LGBTQ Kids Support Group on Facebook. To join, send a private message to the group administrator, or email Susan Berland directly at: email@example.com. Because Love Makes ALL the Difference, Amber Cantorna
Hey Friends, I had the privilege to write for Believe Out Loud this week in honor of National Coming Out day and share my story as well as give some advice to those who are considering coming out. You can read about it here: When Coming Out Costs You Everything, by Amber Cantorna Also, if you or your friends live in Albuquerque, please come see me tonight (10/12) at Bookworks at 6pm or on Saturday (10/14) at Church of the Good Shepherd at 1pm! Because Love Makes All the Difference, Amber Note: This post was originally published at Believe Out Loud, a program of Intersections.
Hey Friends, I was honored to write a piece for the Huffington Post that released today in honor of National Coming Out Week. Please check it out! Here’s What Happened When The Daughter Of An Anti-LGBTQ ‘Family’ Group Exec Came Out Also, if you live in Albuquerque (or if you know someone that does!) that is officially our first stop on the Refocusing My Family Book Tour and I will be there this weekend! I will be at Bookworks this Thursday (10/12) at 6:00pm and at Church of the Good Shepherd this Saturday (10/14) at 1:00pm. Come out and join us if you can! You can view more events and event details by visiting my website. Hope to see you there! Because Love Makes All the Difference, Amber Cantorna
Hey Friends! The day we’ve all been waiting for has finally arrived! Refocusing My Family officially releases today and is now available (almost!) everywhere books are sold! You can go into your local bookstore, or place your order on Amazon today. I’m so excited to finally share my journey with you in the form of this memoir. It’s been a labor of love and I’m so glad that it has finally turned into something tangible you can now hold in your hands and share with your friends. If you have a moment, there are 4 ways you can help spread the word about Refocusing My Family: Take a photo of yourself holding the book, or a photo of you and your family (or family of choice) with the book, and post online-tagging me (@AmberNCantorna) and including the hashtags #RefocusingMyFamily and #RMFtour. Write and post a review on Amazon (and if you have time, copy and paste it in Barnes and Noble too!) as soon as you finished the book. The review doesn’t have to be long, a couple sentences is just fine!) but it goes a long way in helping the book gain traction. Share a quote from the book or encouraging shout-out on social media, tagging me (@AmberNCantorna) and including the hashtag #RefocusingMyFamily and #RMFtour. Encourage your friends to attend one of the 20+ Refocusing My Family events nation-wide coming up! The tour schedule is below and we are continuing to add new dates and locations. Almost all of these events are […]